Grief is a normal and very emotional response to loss.  The feelings that arise after losing a loved one, ending a relationship, or experiencing a huge life transition can be overwhelming.  While grief appears differently for each individual, recognizing its stages can help people navigate the healing process with more awareness and resilience.

Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross first described the five phases of mourning in her 1969 book On Death and Dying.  These stages provide a framework for comprehending feelings during mourning, however not everyone experiences them in the same sequence or intensity.

• The first reaction to loss is often denial—a defense mechanism that helps soften the immediate pain.
  
  

• Common thoughts during this stage include: “This isn’t real.” or “There must be a mistake.”
  
  

• Denial can manifest as emotional numbness or avoidance of discussions about the loss.
  
  

• Coping Tip: Give yourself time to absorb the reality of the situation. Journaling or speaking with a trusted friend can help ease the transition.
  
  

• As the shock fades, intense emotions such as frustration, resentment, or guilt may surface.
  
  

• Individuals may direct their anger at themselves, others, medical professionals, or even the deceased.
  
  

• Coping Tip: Acknowledge and express your anger in healthy ways—exercise, creative outlets, or professional counseling can be beneficial.
  
  

• During this stage, people often dwell on hypothetical scenarios: “If only I had done something differently, this wouldn’t have happened.”
  
  

• Bargaining is an attempt to regain control and make sense of the loss.
  
  

• Coping Tip: Recognize that guilt and regret are natural but unhelpful. Redirect your focus to honoring the person’s memory in a meaningful way.
  
  

• As reality sets in, profound sadness and loneliness may take hold.
  
  

• People in this stage may withdraw from social activities, experience sleep disturbances, or struggle with daily responsibilities.
  
  

• Coping Tip: Allow yourself to grieve without judgment. Seeking support from friends, family, or a grief counselor can help prevent prolonged isolation.
  
  

• Acceptance does not mean forgetting the loss but rather learning to live with it.
  
  

• At this stage, individuals start to find meaning, cherish memories without overwhelming pain, and reintegrate into daily life.
  
  

• Coping Tip: Engage in activities that bring joy and fulfillment while keeping your loved one’s memory alive.

While the stages of grief offer insight, healing is a non-linear process. Below are strategies to help manage loss:

• Surround yourself with friends, family, or support groups who can offer comfort.
  
  

• According to the American Psychological Association, those who actively seek social support experience lower levels of complicated grief.
  
  

• Maintain a routine that includes proper sleep, nutrition, and physical activity.
  
  

• Meditation, journaling, and deep breathing exercises can help manage overwhelming emotions.
  
  

• Create a tribute, such as a scrapbook, memorial garden, or an annual tradition in their honor.
  
  

• Volunteering or donating in their name can provide a sense of connection and purpose.
  
  

• A grief counselor or therapist can help navigate intense emotions and develop coping mechanisms.
  
  

• Studies show that individuals who participate in grief counseling experience improved emotional resilience over time.
  
  

• There is no "right" timeline for grief. Be patient with yourself and acknowledge that healing is a journey.
  
  

• Remember that experiencing moments of happiness does not diminish your love for the deceased.
  
  

Dale-Riggs Funeral Home & Cremation Services understands the terrible impact of loss and is here for you every step of the way.  Our sensitive staff provides tailored funeral, memorial, and cremation services to assist families in honoring their loved ones with dignity and care.  We also offer grief support materials to help you get through this difficult period.

If you require assistance or want to learn more about our services, please do not hesitate to contact us.  Let us accompany you on your journey to healing.